Motion creates emotion – I just don’t feel like it.

She said it resonated with her when I mentioned in my program that the best gift she can give her family is to take great care of herself. She needs put herself first more often. She had not been doing that for many years she said and it impacted not only her physical appearance but her energy level, stress level and the example she was setting for her kids. Those are compelling reasons!

We went a little deeper on what it has cost her in the past, costing her now and what the implications are in the future if she did not change now. I asked how proud she would be in one year and what would change in her life for the positive? She gave me a great list. I asked her what has stopped her in the past from making the change? She said, “Sometimes I just don’t feel like it.”

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Confronting Brutal Facts – Make a Change

Is this “PC” world we live in sometimes people dance around the truth and what is the reality of the current situation. Most of the people I have helped make changes in their lives did it quickly. They made a TRUE decision based on confronting the brutal facts of the moment. Master Jim Rohn told me that “disgust can be a powerful motivator!” Sometimes a little self-reflection on what is really happening can lead you to that moment of disgust.

Them moment when you make a decision you CUT OFF any other possibility. That is it. The decision to change is made and it happened in a moment

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Limits on cell phones and games for kids

Our youngest Lucas just turned 11. For our other kids that milestone means you get a phone. He is of course excited. My wife is due for an upgrade to the iPhone 6 so he will get her old phone. Lucas and I attended a 4 week course at our church on his moving to adolescence an on to middle school. At the final class tonight they shared an idea I wish we would have heard before and implemented with our older kids now 15 and 17 .

It is a Cell Phone Agreement with the child. A simple search will produce many options for you and here is the one we are using. Both the parent and the child sign it so their is clarity up front. The goal is for them to have unlimited access and zero restrictions by the time they leave the house. The reality is they are not ready to have unrestricted access at a young age. The same applies for tablets. What limits do you put on your children?

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Avoid Permanent Mistakes

He said he coaches his kids to make sure they avoid permanent mistakes. Some are obvious: breaking the law, teen pregnancy, ear spacers, driving under the influence accidents, starting to smoke/take meth/cocaine/heroin or other drugs, drinking excessively, permanent facial make-up tattoos, piercings in non-conventional areas, eating a donut a day not an apple, drunk facial tattoos.

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Leaders – Change the energy in 5 minutes

Leaders – what is your routine the first 5 minutes in the door? Do you head straight to your office? How you spend the first 5 minutes can ignite the fire in your team if you know what you are doing. Sometimes leaders are so focused on putting out fires they forget how to light them. How can y0u change the energy quickly?

I recommend the first five minutes you connect and engage your team – face to face with those close by and virtually with those working remotely.

Seek them out and ask them to tell you something good! What are they excited about?

What is their focus for the day? What will they accomplish today? How can you help?

Ask about their kids and out of the office activities. Engage and show sincere interest.

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Be Careful About Recruiting Talent!

The”top” college football prospects have been in Indy for the annual NFL Combine. They are being measured on a wide variety of short term tests to see how they stack up against their peers at the same positions. Tests such as the vertical leap, timed agility drills and the 40 yard dash. The question is whether this annual ritual is an effective way of judging talent. Last year in the NFL there were 582 players made NFL rosters that were NEVER drafted. Wow, one third of the players. That is amazing to me. Evaluated and somehow deemed unworthy by the traditional talent evaluation process.

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