Our youngest Lucas just turned 11. For our other kids that milestone means you get a phone. He is of course excited. My wife is due for an upgrade to the iPhone 6 so he will get her old phone. Lucas and I attended a 4 week course at our church on his moving to adolescence an on to middle school. At the final class tonight they shared an idea I wish we would have heard before and implemented with our older kids now 15 and 17 .
It is a Cell Phone Agreement with the child. A simple search will produce many options for you and here is the one we are using. Both the parent and the child sign it so their is clarity up front. The goal is for them to have unlimited access and zero restrictions by the time they leave the house. The reality is they are not ready to have unrestricted access at a young age. The same applies for tablets. What limits do you put on your children?