{"id":1269,"date":"2015-03-24T15:10:23","date_gmt":"2015-03-24T15:10:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/getswitchedonblog.com\/?p=1269"},"modified":"2019-09-27T12:48:04","modified_gmt":"2019-09-27T12:48:04","slug":"avoid-permanent-mistakes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.getswitchedon.com\/index.php\/2015\/03\/24\/avoid-permanent-mistakes\/","title":{"rendered":"Avoid Permanent Mistakes"},"content":{"rendered":"

A man approached me with a parenting tip after a recent event. I had talked about the value of taking the chance to try new things and be willing to make mistakes in your life to get ahead. I said\u00a0that anything worth doing well, is worth taking the time and effort to do POORLY first.\u00a0<\/strong>Any skill that you eventually master or do very well, you likely do poorly at first. You keep deliberately practicing<\/span>, getting\u00a0quality coaching<\/span> and over time, you learn to do it very well.<\/p>\n

Too many, especially kids, try something the first time, do not meet with immediate success and quit. \u00a0They never try again. This often happens because kids are over praised for being fantastic and special<\/strong>\u00a0their whole lives. They\u00a0are not good at dealing with failure and frustration. Sometimes kids who sail through high school with straight A\u2019s get there first B in college and feel like a failure. I believe we need to encourage \u201cnon-permanent\u201d mistakes. Try something new and be able to come back home, regroup, lick your wounds, suck it up and try again.<\/p>\n

This man agreed with that philosophy and gave me a nugget I had not considered. He said he coaches his kids to make sure they avoid permanent mistakes<\/strong>. Some are obvious: breaking the law, teen pregnancy, ear spacers, driving under the influence accidents, starting to smoke\/take meth\/cocaine\/heroin or other drugs, drinking excessively,\u00a0permanent facial make-up tattoos, piercings in non-conventional areas, eating \u00a0a donut a day not an apple, drunk facial tattoos.<\/p>\n

\"bad<\/a>There is a show called <\/span>Ink Masters<\/strong><\/a> which had an episode on permanent mistakes. I love the byline – <\/span>Tattoos are forever and so are the mistakes!\u00a0<\/em>\u00a0If you want to see for yourself, here are three links to some hideous examples, <\/span>One<\/a>, Two<\/a> and Three<\/a>.<\/strong>\u00a0As you will see are there are some very poor spellers out there and people with terrible\u00a0judgment. <\/span>Evidently many tattoo artists are not aware that there is a difference between your and you\u2019re.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Some permanent mistakes are a little more subtle. My friend Waldo Waldman told me his wife had a good friend die of a stroke at age 49. He had no life insurance<\/strong> in place for his wife and 2 children. That is a totally avoidable permanent mistake that will negatively impact his family forever.<\/p>\n

What about the couple how makes a decision early on to not put any money away for long term savings or their kids college tuition? That is a permanent mistake that you have a difficult time recovering from in the future. Maybe that is way 25% of people think their best chance to build wealth is by playing the lottery! Of course almost all take the lump sum payment instead of the 20 year annuity payment. What happens? It ruins many of their live because the did not have the mindset it takes to handle that windfall.<\/p>\n

What about people who make the decision to\u00a0not take care of themselves, eat poorly and do not exercise<\/strong>. Many of the eventual problems they run into we call \u201cdiseases\u201d. My thought is if you GAVE IT TO YOURSELF, it is not a disease. Did you know that\u00a0Preventable illness<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0makes up approximately\u00a080%<\/strong>\u00a0of the burden of illness and\u00a090%<\/strong>\u00a0of all healthcare costs.\u00a0Preventable illnesses<\/strong>\u00a0account for\u00a0eight of the nine<\/strong>\u00a0leading categories of death.<\/p>\n

Alert<\/strong> – if you have Type II diabetes you gave it to yourself! It is totally reversible and avoidable in the first place. Did you know that\u00a095% of diabetics are Type II<\/a>, 1 in 11 Americans have it and\u00a0that a million more in the USA are diagnosed\u00a0and it every year.<\/p>\n

What about heart disease<\/strong>? Again, it is a preventable illness. \u00a0These are examples of permanent mistakes and you can take action to reverse. I see people like this\u00a0in the gym all the time. They spent their entire life not taking care of themselves thinking ONE DAY I will get around to it and they never do<\/span>. Then they wake one day and look in the mirror in horror. \u201cI have to do something.”<\/p>\n

In my research for this blog, I read about the MTV show TEEN MOMS<\/strong>. A article mentioned that of the teen moms on the show almost all had tattoos also. That got me thinking. If you make one permanent mistake does that make you more likely to keep making them?<\/p>\n

What about the man\u00a0who commits his first crime and goes to jail? Are they more likely to get that tattoo, try drugs and steal again? I think so. What about the girl who gets that tattoo on spring break? Is that next potential permanent mistake easier to make? Once you start down that path it must seem easier to keep going. What do you think? What are other permanent mistakes to avoid?<\/p>\n

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